The Bitter Truth
You are never accepted by your parents, teachers, neighbors, society, as you are. Everybody was trying to improve upon you, to make you better. Everybody was pointing at the flaws, at the mistakes, at the errors, at the weakness, at the frailties, which every human being is prone to. Nobody emphasized your beauty, nobody emphasized your intelligence, nobody emphasized your grandeur.
Being alive is such a gift, but nobody ever told you to be thankful to existence. On the contrary, everyone was grumpy, complaining. Naturally, if everything surrounding your life from the very beginning goes on pointing out to you that you are not what you should be, goes on giving you great ideals that you have to follow and have to become, your true self is never praised. What is praised is your future- if you can become someone respectable, powerful, rich, intellectual, in some way famous, not just a nobody.
Constant conditioning against you has created in you the idea, “I am not enough as I am, something is missing. And I have to be somewhere else – not here. This is not the place I am supposed to be, but somewhere higher, more powerful, more dominant, more respected, more well known.” This is half the story – which is ugly, which should not be the case. This can be simply removed if people if people are a little bit more intelligent about how to be mothers, how to be fathers, how to be teachers.
You are not to spoil the child. His self-respect, his acceptance of himself, you have to help it to grow. On the contrary, you are becoming a hindrance for growth. This is the ugly part but it is the simple part. Because it is so simple and logical to see that you are not responsible for what you are, that is the way nature has made you. Unnecessarily weeping over the spilled milk is sheer stupidity.
You are not enough because you can be more. It will not be any longer a question of becoming famous, respectable, powerful, rich. That will not be at all your concern. Your concern will be that your being is only a seed. With birth you are not born as tree, you are born as seed, and you have to grow to the point where you come to flowering, and that flowering has nothing to do with power, nothing to do with money, nothing to do with politics. It has something to do absolutely with you; it is an individual progress. And for this, the other conditioning is a hindrance, it is a distraction, it is a misuse of the natural longing for growth.
Comparison Is Hell
Every child is born to grow and to become a fully-fledged human being, with love, with compassion, with silence. He has to become a celebration unto himself. It is not question of competition, not even a question of comparison.
The whole conditioning produces an inferiority complex because it wants you to become superior, more superior than others. It teaches you competition, comparison; it teaches you violence, fight. It teaches you that means don’t matter, what matters is the end – success is the goal. And this can be easily done because you already are born with an urge to grow, with an urge to be somewhere else.
In The Nut Shell
A seed has to travel far to become flowers. It is a pilgrimage. The urge is beautiful. It is nature itself. But the society, up to now, has been very cunning; it turns, deviates, diverts your natural instincts into some social utility. Your intelligence requires to make it clear what your natural urge is, and what is social conditioning. Cut the social conditioning – it is all crap – so that nature remain pure, unpolluted. And nature is always individualistic.
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